OK for now

Thanks for the support, ladies. It is so nice to visit and see all of your kind-hearted messages. This definitely wasn't the way we wanted things to turn out, but I suppose we have to roll with the punches.

First and foremost, Baby A is doing well. Lots of movement and a good HR at 170.

The RE was a pretty huffy because I had made the appt with the OB before I was released. Harumph. I guess he didn't want too many hands mixing the pot, so to speak. Perhaps he lost a vacation in Tahiti for referring his 100th patient to Dr. So and so. Whatev. I felt bad for irking him. He is usually so calm, but I suppose I will get over it. I had rather good reasons for making the OB appt when I did: referral from a friend (who herself is a physician, so it's not like she is a medical schlump), the physician's preference for the first appt to be between 9-11 weeks, my desire for an NT scan (which can only be done between 11 and 13 weeks, so I didn't want to wait to be released to make the initial appt, which would take who knows how long to get in, possibly losing that window of opportunity), preference of the NICU of the OB's delivering hospital, etc. I suppose I am a typical girl and feel bad for pissing someone off, but I am going to get over it. I will, however, miss their fancy US machine that lets me plug in a jump drive to download baby pics.

Anyhoo, the important information gleaned was this: there was nothing I could have done to prevent this. Usually when this happens, there is some sort of issue with chromosomes. The chance for miscarriage is now down to 5 %, and with another US that shows movement and HR the risk goes down to 1-2%. So it looks like right now I have a 95% chance to have a healthy singleton pregnancy. I'd say those are pretty good odds.

Also, he talked about the FET and the odds of it's success. The successful thaw rate is two out of three, and the odds of that embryo getting me pregnant is 25%. Of course, there is no rush to do that. He does want to see me 3 months after I have the baby to wrap things up.

Two things they did differently at the OB that had not been done at the RE until today was 1) weigh me, depressing as that is and 2) do a urinalysis (still not done at the RE). Not that I was getting neglectful care or anything, since really, an US gives us the best pic of what is going on. I suppose I was just noticing the difference between the RE world and the OB world.